Culturescape – cultivating a critically thinking human.

Researcher Brene Brown says, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change”.

 

 

Many people today are too afraid to put themselves in a position of vulnerability, therefore, one instinctual reaction is to conform. There is a very interesting video currently doing the rounds aptly named people are sheep. Watch below for this social experiment shows how when people are confronted with situations where group habits prevail conformity is the norm. If you have not been brought up to question everything we tend to conform without question, this includes things like gossip and hearsay, people tend to have opinions on everything but know little about what they are discussing at times. Conformity in today’s society is so great that even if the actions in question make absolutely no sense what so ever people will defend them and even fight for them.

 

 

 

 

At any time the young lady could have made a full-fledged effort to find out why the group behaved in such a way and yet the instinct was to follow the group’s actions. Even after all of the initial actors had left the room she continued to stand up each time the bell went off.

 

 

Vishen Lakhiani author of The Code of the Extraordinary mind came up with the term Culturescape. He describes this term in the following manner, “Culturescape represents our relative truths about our beliefs, customs, and traditions”. These are part of the world that comes from our mental constructs. They are the beliefs that are formed from our direct environment, from our peers, parents, media, and society in general, they are what we are told we should do, you should go to school, you should believe in God, you should get a job, you should get married. They are mental constructs a type of dogma that says I will let someone else think and decide for me what I should do. They occur because we are not as independent and free-thinking as we think we are. From the day we are born we are exposed to stories, these are the customs and beliefs that we learn from our direct environment. These stories then become our culture, customs and beliefs and or traditions which are all subjective. They, in turn, become our morals and values. When we learn to question things it increases our awareness of how the world operates.

 

 

Human beings are very much tribal in nature, it stems from evolution in our quest for safety, love, and connection. In today’s world safety comes in different forms to those we experience hundreds perhaps hundreds of thousands of years in the past, today these can come via family, laws, government and of course religion as opposed to dangerous animals. In some ways tribalism has never left us, today we use borders, politics, race, religion, and nationalities to govern us.

 

 

Children will quite often mimic what they see, hear and learn through a term called mirror neurons. (Simply put monkey see monkey do). From a young age, children are always asking why, quite often the reply maybe because I said so because it’s God’s will because those are my rules because I told you so. It is important to nurture the why in your child by teaching them to look for answers by questioning everything, especially things which are part of our mental constructs. For example, if a child says Mum can I pat the Tiger, you would not ask them to go over there and find out why they shouldn’t. But as the video shows if kids are only taught obedience without critical thought it is easy to get caught in a false belief that may limit their ability to broaden one’s horizon. Without critical thought, invisible boundaries are easy to implement by quite simply feeding society with fear of the unknown, by stripping away a child’s right to question. Having mentors and placing your children in happy and healthy environments will teach them to have a positive self-image. This is precisely why we value the creation of a positive environment on our training ground.

 

 

 

 

When you buy a personal computer every few years you are required to upgrade the operating system. This enables your machine to keep up to date with the changes and advances in technology. Our operating system is our brain and yet many are still operating on outdated systems of beliefs and functions. These systems initially served a purpose and worked well to get us to the next level of human evolution but in a rapidly changing world which is more connected and open than ever before many of the current belief systems may no longer be valid.
If we are to prepare our children for what is to come I believe we all need to renew our operating systems in order to keep up with the changes that are occurring so rapidly. Today more than ever children need to learn problem-solving. They need a positive self-image in a world built on principles of “I am not enough” I need a bigger house, a better car, fancy clothes. Consumption fuels the brain and unless we change this need for exponential growth we will not have a future for our children and our children’s children.
We try to factor these principles into our methodology and work towards engaging children as individuals that are responsible for their growth and contribution. Leadership as a character comes from the golden rule of treat others as you wish to be treated. Leadership requires self-confidence which are aspects of character that derive from the six human needs as presented by Anthony Robbins, these are;

 

 

  1. Certainty. The need for security, stability, and reliability.
  2. Variety/Uncertainty, the need for change, stimulation, and challenge.
  3. Significance, the need to feel acknowledged, recognized and valued.
  4. Love and Connection, the need to love and to feel loved, and to feel the connection with others.
  5. Growth, the need to grow, improve and develop, both in character and in spirit.
  6. Contribution, the need to give, to help others, and to make a difference.

 

 

 

 

Children have an incredible capacity to learn when engaged. If they enjoy what they are learning they will love learning and the side effects are that they grow in confidence and motivation. Coaching football gives us an incredibly fulfilling opportunity to make some real differences in people’s lives. We contribute towards their esteem and our words can make all the difference between a child that becomes self-actualized or a child that loses faith in his or her ability and in turn deprives them of the confidence that comes from being valued. For this reason, it is important to choose your words carefully, try to avoid shaming as shame today is the most harmful of all practices to bring one’s confidence to absolute zero. It is best to attempt to be empathic to situations which leave people in a vulnerable situation. Shame leads to a loss of self-worth. In return, people who are not taught to question will lack the mental strength to overcome or be exposed to vulnerability. If we all wake up tomorrow morning look in the mirror and say hell yeah I’m awesome just the way I am, entire economies would crumble!

 

 

As a parent, I have had to go through several paradigm shifts to keep up with the world my children have grown up in. Many of the things that I held firm beliefs have been challenged and much more are still being challenged. As I seek to learn and grow I am learning that many of our issues are born from the mental constructs that fill our heads. The invisible barriers that we see as all too real. Our aim is to provide an environment where children can learn real skills, football skills, and life skills. We do not aim to indoctrinate we aim to influence through life-governing principles. These principles we hold dear and they govern our every move. These include things like integrity, humility, fidelity, temperance, courage, justice, patience, industry, simplicity, modesty, love, trust and the Golden Rule. Steven Covey describes these principles in his book the Seven habits of highly effective people as the character ethic, today’s society is largely driven by the personality ethic. Success has become more a function of personality, of public image, of attitudes and behaviors, skills and techniques that lubricate the processes of human interaction. Unfortunately the personality ethic whilst it has its positives is derived from an outside-in approach or how Covey describes it your “circle of concern”. The character ethic is more of an inside-out approach, “circle of influence”. This means that people should look to focus on things they can control as opposed to things out of their control and by doing so it eliminates the game of blame and leads to looking within for solutions to any problem. It teaches kids that there are always three sides to a coin and that we should always seek to understand then to be understood. Responsibility, in a nutshell, means being responsible for everything, I would go so far as to say that everything is your fault even when it isn’t, this is because when you take full responsibility you get to keep your power when you don’t you give your power away.

 

 

 

The word success today transcends the wrong message. Today success is associated with being extremely good at something, whether it be sports or running a business. For me, success is the pursuit of happiness, love, relationships and most importantly having a mission in life a purpose. People who have no mission tend to settle and conform. Many people in today’s society have accomplished incredible things. These outliers such as Elon Musk is a perfect example, after selling PayPal he had enough wealth to buy several islands and retire sipping on Martinis as he puts it but that wasn’t for him, he has a mission, he wants humans to be an intergalactic species. He also has a mission to end the planets need for fossil fuels in other words he wants to save the planet. In doing so he almost lost every cent he acquired. Today he is recognized as one our societies top entrepreneurs. To get there he needed to be able to have a strong tolerance to pain, suffering and most important he needed to tolerate failure and use it as a way to move forward, he is a unique individual with a great mental capacity and whilst most of us could never contemplate doing what he has done there are lessons we can all learn. He has shown that we do not need to conform in fact a huge number of highly acclaimed people had all written him off, “it can’t be done”, he will bomb out, you can’t take on the automobile industry, you can’t build a rocket in America, electric cars won’t work, the list goes on and on, it’s a good thing that he did not listen and backed himself no matter what.

 

 

 

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Intelligence cannot be influenced its a flame that must be inflamed all the time. We use football as a means to teach good habits, we use the games addictive environment to ensure that we can encourage a thirst for learning if in some part conformity exists in football it is to solidify good social and moral values, friendship, sportsmanship, fair play, emotional resilience, and connection. Lets teach children to question everything, lets encourage a natural curiosity but rather than give them the answers ask them to go find the answers, if anything it will teach them to read, to research, to analyze, to think and in the process they will gain knowledge, desire, skill and this will lead to wisdom which is the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgement; the quality of being wise.

 

 

           “Education is the kindling of a flame, not the filling of a vessel.” — Socrates
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